How to Survive Easter With Your In-Laws
Chocolate bunnies, egg dye, cute spring clothes… there are plenty of reasons to be excited for Easter. And as with any holiday, family time can either be a part of the “Things we love" category, or the “Things we dread." Perhaps it's more likely to make it into the latter category when your in-laws are involved. Yes, it can be hard to adjust to a new family (heck, it took us long enough just to adjust to our own), but it doesn't mean it can't be done. Check out our tips for surviving this holiday with your in-laws:
Accept Their Traditions and Share Your Own
Probably the hardest part about spending holidays away from your own family is that the traditions you've grown up with are going to be different. Your dad's ham won't be on the table, your mom's famous pastel-painted eggs won't be making an appearance, and where is your basket filled with all your favorite candy?
Things won't be the same, and that's okay. Just go in with an open mind, and make an effort to embrace the new traditions. Also, don't be afraid to bring something that will make you feel at home, whether it's a side dish your family always makes or a package of your favorite Easter candy (Peeps, anyone?) You'll not only be making yourself feel more comfortable, but your in-laws will appreciate the fact that you shared a part of your life with them.
Prepare for Those Conversations
As you're probably aware (if you've been to any family functions as a married couple), a handful of typical questions will most likely be hurled your way. “When are you going to have a baby?" “When are you buying a house?" etc. Come up with your answers in advance. Often a simple, “When we're ready," will do.
Offer (or Enlist) Help
If the celebration is taking place at your in-laws' home, offer a hand. It not only shows how polite you are (your mama obviously raised you right), but it can also give you a break from all the hubbub happening in the living room. And if your in-laws are at your place, let them help if they offer. It'll look a lot nicer than locking yourself in the kitchen and not talking to anyone.
Stay a Team, But Also Let Your Partner Go
Be honest about your feelings with your partner before you go into the situation. If you feel like his mom is often judgmental, ask him to help defend you if it gets to that point. If her dad won't stop talking about hunting—a topic you can contribute nothing to—ask her to help steer the conversation to something else. It's important to work together to make this a pleasant experience for you both. But that doesn't mean you have to be around each other the whole time. You might find that you bond better with his mom during one-on-one time or her dad can talk about a lot of other things when it's just the two of you.
Have an Exit Strategy
Talk to your partner about how long you plan to stay before you get there. If you want to leave earlier than he does, take two cars and come up with an excuse why you'll have to leave early. Whatever it is, just plan it out in advance so that 10 pm doesn't roll around and both of you are saying, “I was waiting for you to say something."
What other tips do you have for dealing with in-laws during the holidays? Tell us in a comment below!